I’m sure you’ve heard enough birthing stories to know there is no way to predict how labor would go, as a result, why not put your energy into the things you can control, like setting a mood and creating an experience by making a labor playlist?
First, check out my top 3 reasons why you should create a labor playlist, later, I will show you how to choose the perfect songs for your own.
My Top 3 Reasons Why You Should Create a Labor Playlist:
- By creating a labor playlist, you are creating a memorable experience – Every one knows that music goes hand in hand with nostalgia. You may not remember the words to that 90’s tune but you remember the way you felt while listening it. You may even remember exactly what you were doing when you first heard it. Music is that powerful!
- Taking back control of your emotions – Giving birth will take you on an emotional rollercoaster. Seriously. If you aren’t a master at the whole hypno-birthing technique, you are going to find that it’s pretty hard to stay present during labor. Creating a labor playlist may not keep you in the now your entire labor, but it may help you manipulate your emotions in your favor. By choosing songs that move, motivate and inspire you, you can take back control of your emotions.
- Creating a connection to your baby and your birthing experience – How many songs do you have that are dedicated to specific people in your life? Say, maybe a best friend, favorite cousin or partner? Why not have songs that are for your little one as well? Laboring and birthing are hard! There may be times when you find yourself disconnected from the entire experience, to combat that you need to keep yourself grounded and present. Choose a song or two that remind you of the task at hand, and the amazing super power that is giving birth.
Why I chose to make a labor playlist:
I expected there to be a lot of pain, however, I was determined to make my labor much more than that. Generally, I wanted it to be fun, inspiring and beautiful My birthing experience was in a birthing center. They provided an essential oil burner and a USB stereo connector so that I can easily play music from my phone. If there is one thing that can get me through anything, it’s music! I am not lying when I say that I started working on my labor playlist immediately, as if I needed something else to obsess over while pregnant.
Choosing songs to add to my labor playlist was not as easy as I originally thought; in this case, if I wanted to create the experience I was looking for I needed to take my time and really search for the right songs. My goal was to have a playlist that would represent my pregnancy journey, add value and meaning to my labor experience, and further bond me to my baby. Read my post on the 6 Best Ways to Bond With Baby During Pregnancy here.
How I chose songs for my labor playlist:
To begin with, there were a number of songs by my favorite artists that were dedicated to their children and the newness of motherhood. I listened to these songs years before ever having been pregnant. Adding those songs were a no brainer. I remember listening to those songs and thinking “I hope becoming a mother is as beautiful as this song” or “I can’t wait to feel this way about my baby”. It was an amazing feeling to hear these songs as I was laboring down and about to meet my baby. It made my labor that much more special.
Next, I took my husband into consideration. I mean, yes, he was there with me, but I wanted to remember the love we shared that got us to that delivery room in the first place. I don’t know about you, but my husband was not my favorite person during my pregnancy, as an example, I had moments of excitement that we were going to be parents together to cursing his name and the ground he walked on. Adding songs that reminded me of our love and good times, definitely helped. I even added a few of his favorite sings and sweet little numbers he would sing in the car. It brought loving moments through the pain of labor.
Lastly, the rest of the songs on my labor playlist were just a collection that made me feel good. They either inspired me to be my best self, or to get up and move my body! Also, I wasn’t the only person loving my playlist. My midwives constantly stopped by to vibe or dance to the tunes blasting from my room. Luckily, it was only me and one other mama giving birth that night.
Above all, my favorite part of implementing a labor playlist in my birthing experience was my mother and I’s connection. In the first place, I’ve always admired my mother’s amazing ear for music. I couldn’t say I love music as much as I do without giving her the proper credit. I am able to appreciate so many genres of music because she exposed me to good music all of my life. Therefore, my mother knew most, if not all, of the songs on my labor playlist and boy did we jam! It was beyond beautiful!
How to Choose Songs for Your Labor playlist
In short, when it comes to choosing the songs to create a labor playlist, there is only one rule: HAVE FUN!
If you are having a hard time, these 3 questions can help get you started:
- Which songs make me feel good?
- Are there any songs that gives me energy?
- How do I want to feel?
- Is there a mood that I want to set in the delivery room?
It doesn’t matter how old the song is, or how relevant it is to childbirth. In fact, I encourage you to dig deep in your musical archives. Pull out that old school classic that your mother use to put on while cleaning the house or the song you always use to make you feel like you were in a music video. You can even add the song that makes you cry before the artist even hums the first melody. All that matters, is that it moves you and it adds value to your birthing experience.
Aside from the songs being able to move your emotions, you can choose songs that represent a pivotal time in your life. Giving birth will most likely count as a life changing experiences. It can be cool to be reminded of a time you successfully adapted to change. Moments like falling in love, getting married, first kisses, and even breakups usually comes with dramatic songs to keep us (or take us out of) our feelings. Choose songs that brings you back to those times if it is relevant enough to make it to your birthing experience.
Check out my labor playlist comprised of some of my favorite songs below:
My labor playlist:
All of Me – John Legend
Blue (Feat. Blue Ivy) – Beyoncé
Push It – Salt-N-Pepa
I’m Coming Out – Diana Ross
Really Love – D’Angelo and The Vanguard
Every Breath You Take – The Police
Get the Party Started – P!nk
Isn’t She Lovely – Stevie Wonder
Daughters – John Mayer
My Baby – Britney Spears
Beautiful Boy (Darling Boy) – John Lennon
Maps – Yeah Yeah Yeahs
You Can Do It – Ice Cube
Hold You in My Arms – Ray LaMontagne
Don’t Stop Believin’ – Journey
Circle of Life – Elton John
Sweet Child O’ Mine – Gun’s N Roses
Feel It Still – Portugal. The Man
Breathe – Faith Hill
I Hope You Dance – Lee Ann Womack
Africa – D’Angelo
Send It On – D’ Angelo
Feel Like Makin’ Love – D’Angelo
Alright – D’Angelo
When We Get By – D’Angelo
Don’t You Worry ‘Bout a Thing – Stevie Wonder
Overjoyed – Stevie Wonder
Alright – Jordan Rakei
In conclusion, I continue to play these songs to this day, singularly, I love how it reminds me of when my baby girl was in the wound and of me bringing her into this world. Regardless of the pain, (all 22 hours of it), my labor experience was just how I intended it to be: fun, inspiring and beautiful. Every time I listen to a song on this playlist, I feel gratitude for how far me and my baby girl have come in this life together. I am always reminded to be present and cherish our shared existence. Talk about grounded! I plan on adding more songs as we pass each milestone. Imagine the massive lost well end up with!
I’d love to hear about the songs that has positively influenced your pregnancy journey and made it to your labor playlist. Feel free to share in the comments below